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  • Do You Hear the Cry?

    Life is changing rapidly these days. You can see it clearly on the world’s stage. Our darkest shadows express themselves in politics, warfare, natural disasters, and hate crimes in our own communities. Every day we think, “It can’t get any worse, can it?” And then it does.

    People are more polarized than ever before. We are choosing sides, laying stakes, and not budging. People take pride in being stubborn, calling names, and hating their fellow humans.

    God knows no sides. Life doesn’t differentiate between one or the other. That “other” is you. There is only one. One humanity. One spiritual body. One planet earth. One ecosystem calling for healing. And that healing begins with you.

    Do you hear the cries of the planet? The hurricanes that ravish our shores. The earthquakes that shake our cities. The floods that wash away our homes. Who are we to think that we can go on living the same way we did before? Let’s get all Einstein for a sec and acknowledge that we cannot find the solution to a problem at the same level of thinking that created it.

    We must start fresh, new, again, for the first time. And we are given that chance today – right now, and every day, over and over again. You are given that opportunity. You.

    Yea, it’s easy to sit back and look at the world and think about how there’s all this crazy shit going on out there. It seems easier to have another drink, another smoke, another cupcake. It seems easier to beat yourself up at the gym or force yourself to work longer hours. You can’t seem to stop watching TV or movies. The video games suck you in each night and every weekend. But those problems, the ones you see played out over and over again on the 24-hour news cycle, aren’t going away.

    Some of us will see these images and weep. Our hearts will break. And tears will flow down our faces, drench our shirts, and create a puddle on the floor around our bent over bodies.

    Some of us will see these images and get angry. Someone is to blame and it’s not me or you – it’s them! They need to be killed, beaten, isolated, or exterminated. We become red in the face and so heated that we take it upon ourselves to do the killing. We bring out our biggest gun and kill the innocent kids playing in the yard at the mosque on the corner.

    Some of us will see these images and die. The weight of the world has become too heavy. There’s no reason to live. Killing one’s self is the answer. Suicide, cardiac arrest, car accident, or cancer. Our time is over.

    But then some of us will see these images and know. We know what these images really are. We see the light beneath these shadows. The light that makes these shadows possible. And we give praise! We praise God, The Universe, for answering our prayer. We kneel before nature and give thanks to her beauty and bounty. We bless our fellow humans. We call forth all those who wish to welcome this light to earth with open arms and hearts. We worship!

    These problems are a reflection of the deep healing occurring within us collectively and individually. And it is you and I who are being called forth to heal this planet, to heal ourselves, and to heal each other. That means you, because YOU MATTER.

    No longer can you pretend that your individual life doesn’t matter. It is naive to believe that you can be on this planet and have no effect whatsoever. It is selfish to ignore the power that lies within you. It is reckless to think the world’s problems exclude you. And it is insane to think you can stay the same throughout this all.

    Do not be a vapid, ghostly body walking this planet. Because you have purpose and meaning. Because you matter. In that lies great responsibility. And you knew that when you came to this earth. You knew what you were signing up for. No longer are you allowed to shirk your responsibilities to this planet, to its people, and to yourself. In so doing, you put all in harm’s way.

    You need not run out to join a political campaign, activist group, or volunteer activity. You don’t need to write a manifesto, work longer hours, or give away all your money. You don’t have to do these things unless you feel called. At this time, what you’re called to do first is to love.

    Learn to love. Learn to let love in. Learn to see love as the driving force of the Universe. Learn to welcome love into your heart. Learn to give love to other people’s hearts. Learn to be love. In that journey, you will find a path that suits you. A path that heals this planet, its people, and you.

    We are each an individuation of the whole. And in the whole, we see reflected all that is within ourselves.

    Stop waiting. Stop denying. Stop hating. Stop thrashing. Stop resisting. Stop forcing. Stop talking. Stop shitting on this planet. Stop for just a moment. Take a deep breath. Let go. Surrender. And let in the mercy of God. You are needed now more than ever.

    Do you see the tragedies in your own community? Do you hear the cry of the coral reefs dying? Do you taste the poor quality food that’s poisoning you and your children? Do you feel the sorrow of your fellow humans losing their homes? Do you smell the rancid sewer waste filling our oceans, crowding our creeks, and polluting our streets?

    It’s time to get right with your soul. It’s time to come together. And it’s time for being love and allowing that love to move through you in miraculous ways. When you let the hand of God, the Universe, guide you, all you do will be like Midas. You will have a powerful touch that heals the planet.

    Remember: you matter. You mean something to this world. You have a gift. You have a talent. You have a vibration that affects the environment and the people around you. You matter. And now’s the time.

     

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  • How to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

    take your relationship to the next level

    It’s easy in the beginning. You fall madly in love. You can’t get the other person out of your thoughts. You can’t wait to see them on the weekend. You buy gifts, go on dates, and do sweet things for no reason at all. Warm, fuzzy feelings fill your relationship.

    And then one day they don’t. You argue, disagree, or need some space. The other person disappoints you, doesn’t meet your expectations, or lets you down. You discover… a flaw. And unless the other person throws some serious red flags, this is the point when you decide whether you’re truly committed or not. This is where the rubber meets the road.

    A committed relationship gives you several opportunities, again and again, to go to the next level. And it all starts with you. You must first be solid within yourself (as much as possible) before your relationship with another can take on added layers and deeper meaning.

    Let’s just say, for now, you’re ready. You’re both ready. So what does it look like to take your relationship to the next level?

    You may be imagining some crazy ass shit like wild sex parties and threesomes or getting married, having children, or buying a house. These are natural desires and dreams for a couple for outward expansion. But there’s an inward expansion that must first be undertaken: trust.

    Trust is fundamental to the health of any relationship. And it’s the ingredient most frequently discarded in pursuit of outward expansion. Many people fail to develop deep levels of trust before getting married, having a threesome, or even having children. Our society pays no mind to the deep bond necessary to make such undertakings successful, yet encourages that young people get married, have kids, and buy a house pronto. But these achievements remain hollow when your relationship hasn’t undergone the natural inward expansion necessary to withstand such changes. The development of trust creates the foundation for the entire future of your relationship.

    Here’s how trust has evolved in my own relationship:

    A couple Sundays ago, my love and I were enjoying the one leisure day we would have together for three weeks. The one day. My guy had to take a bit of that time to meet with his business partner, which was understandable. That had been the routine for many months now. He said it would only take an hour. But it took three. And I was furious.

    In all my furry, I could feel this voice inside me say, “It’s okay. Everything will work out.” But I couldn’t let the furry go. It was so convincing. I stay committed to it, even after he got home. But I knew that I didn’t want it to ruin what time we had left together. Despite how hard it was to let those feelings go, I decided in that moment to trust that it was all okay, and I opened my heart.

    This same scenario has played out over again and again in varying situations over the last several months. I find myself with all kinds of feelings of irritability, frustration, anger, fear, sadness, and doubt. Usually, my expectations aren’t being met. He’s not being the person I want him to be. Situations aren’t turning out how I’d like them to be. And I don’t understand what’s going on. I feel out of control.

    When I feel out of control, I get angry, frustrated, and hateful. I feel insecure. I take it out on him by closing my heart, walling myself off, and hiding. Which only hurts my relationship. Despite, and with deep acknowledgment of, my feelings, I’ve learned that it’s up to me to return to love. And that requires deep trust. Trust in my self. Trust in my relationship. Trust in the Universe and Life. And trust that everything will work out.

    Trust can be hard to define. But I’m going to give it a go…

    Trust means letting go of your negative thoughts and beliefs and expectations about the other person. Trust means choosing to see the positive and expect the best until proven otherwise. Trust means allowing the Universe to work within your relationship and to be the guide. Trust means putting down the walls and defenses to be yourself freely without shame, guilt, fear, or insecurity – or despite these feelings. Trust means allowing yourself to love deeply so that you may be loved deeply in return.

    These deeper layers of trust happen within you, with your relationship with yourself and with your relationship with God/the Universe/Life first. As you cultivate these deeper layers of trust, you find that trust reflected within your most intimate relationships. And all your relationships for that matter.

    From this space of deep trust, which must be cultivated within both partners, you can take new actions to outwardly expand your relationship as a couple. With each new level of inward expansion, a new level of outward expansion can evolve. The process reveals one layer after another on an ever-evolving journey. More feelings. More love. More feelings. More love. The deeper your commitment to one another the deeper you both will go.

    It’s difficult to trust. An open heart is vulnerable. It’s scary. And it’s understandable that feelings of insecurity would arise. Past hurts surface. Future fears confront you. It’s a natural reaction to defend or hide. But that next level in your relationship requires your diligent practice of being vulnerable, heart wide open, with full faith and trust. Whatever the outcome, it’s the perfect experience for you and your relationship. Your open heart ensures the health and longevity of your relationship, at least with yourself.

    In those moments when it’s hardest, choose to trust that there’s something there for you. Enter that vulnerable, soft place within yourself. Meet your partner from that space. Go there together. And share yourself with him or her deeply. That’s how you take your relationship to the next level. From there, expand out with vigor and enthusiasm.

    Where have you closed your heart in your relationship? Where have you built a wall? Where are and in what way are you cowering from the opportunity to take your relationship to the next level? How can you trust yourself, the Universe, and your partner more? And what inward action can you take today?

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  • How to Create the Life You Desire

    How to Create the Life You Desire

    If there’s a life you’re trying to create, then there’s an easy way you can create it. But for most, you do not realize you can create your life the way you like, and you do not know how to do it.

    When you first hear that you can craft and design your life to your liking you might think of all your problems. And then you set out to dissolve your problems as a way to create the life you want. The whole time you’re solely focused on your problems. Your problems persist. Instead of seeing relief, you see more financial burden, more fights in your marriage, and grumpy kids and unrelatable friends. All while you’re still unhappy. Then you believe it doesn’t work. You give up. You think it’s all a sham. You can’t actually get the life you want. If you could, you would have had it by now, but no proof has appeared – not even a twinkle in the sky to give you hope.

    But you shouldn’t give up because there’s far more to the process than knowing you can create your life. You have to know how to create your life. If you stop with simply knowing, then you’ll fail. You’ll give up. You’ll think you can’t do it. Stick around and learn what more there is to the process. And soon you’ll have the life you desire.

    If you want to create your life, you must know that it’s a collaboration. Yea, you’re working with someone. Not a person or being, really. More like the Universe. God. Source. Your Higher Power. Your Highest Self. You know, that expansive, all-knowing force. The creator of life. Yea, you have to recruit the Creator of Life to help you create your life. This ain’t a solo journey. Can you get down with that?

    So that’s a big step. Well, it’s a big step to learn that you can create your life. But it’s an even bigger step to know that you have to recruit the help and aid of the Universe too. There’s power in this step that shouldn’t be overlooked. Because here you either make it or break it. You’re with it or not. If there’s any inkling of doubt, hesitation, or uncertainty about this step, then you need to figure out what that’s about. Do you struggle with the concept of God? Do you have beliefs about God that could be interfering with this broader, deeper, more supportive idea of God?

    If you can’t get on board with this step in the process, then you might want to stop now. Because this whole thing hinges on faith, surrender, openness, and trust. Those are big concepts and even bigger in practice. If you’re going to collaborate with the Creator of Life, these qualities are necessary to brew up your best life ever. Otherwise, you risk working with the wrong team: the ego.

    The ego plays an important role in human life. Well, we wouldn’t be quite human without it. It’s our personality. It’s how we engage and interact with earth and other humans (since we are spiritual beings having a human experience). But you can’t do much with it, other than interacting with others. Its function was not created to be the source of life. That’s God’s job. And that’s why you need to be on Her side to get the job done.

    So now that you’re with God. You get that God has to be in the picture if you want to be a collaborator, co-creator, of your life. God’s role is very important. Here’s what you can expect. God gathers the forces of nature to bring what you truly desire into physical form in your immediate reality. That means your new best friend, boyfriend, or dog (of their own free will and with the inspiration and guidance of God) are brought to you by the power of God. But not by the power of God alone. While God plays an important role (conjuring unseen forces to materialize in your reality), you have to have a desire for something specific first. That’s where you come in.

    As co-creator of your life, it’s your job to know what you want. Back to what we were talking about earlier. You just learned that you can create the life you desire. So you start to think about all the things going wrong in your life that you want to change. As we’ve already discussed, one thing wrong with what you did here was that you forgot to call on God to be a part of the process. Now the second thing going wrong is that you are focusing on your problems and all the things you don’t want in your life. And that’s exactly how you keep co-creating more of the same. You can’t expect the love of your life to appear when you can’t stop thinking about the broken marriage you’re still a part of. You can’t have a new car if you’re obsessed with talking about the old, broken down car sitting in your driveway. You can’t focus on your problems – what you don’t want – and expect to get what you do want.

    Instead, you must clearly and specifically define what you do want. You want a new car. What kind of car? By when? And most importantly, what will it feel like when you’re driving your new car? You want a new best friend. What qualities do you want in your best friend? What will you do together? And most importantly, what will it feel like when you’re with your new best friend?

    Now take out a piece of paper or open your journal if you have one. At the top of the page, write about what you want. Talk in detail about what you desire. What color? How many? With whom? Where to? And most importantly, what does it feel like to be in the experience of what you desire?

    Do you not know what you want specifically? Maybe you have a vague idea, but you’re having a hard time clearly defining it. That’s okay. Because you can use the most powerful tool of all to assist you in clarifying your desire all while attracting it you from the get-go. What’s the tool? Your feelings. Your feelings are your guide. They tell everything you need to know.

    Start like this: I know I want a new car. What does that feel like? Turn your focus and attention into the center of your body – your chest, belly, neck. All your attention should be on the midline of your body. Here is where you’ll receive the feeling. Sink into the knowing that the solution is available. There’s a car available for you. You’re not sure what kind, how many miles, or whatever. But you know it’s time for a new car and you’re ready to start attracting it to you now.

    Of course, you’ve got to actually need a new car. The desire must spring forth from inside you. It must. You’ve gotten the value out of your old one, and it’s truly time for a new one. It’s called a true desire.

    See you can’t (or at least you can try but it might not work well) attract things into your life if it isn’t a true desire. True desires come from within. They come from being in alignment with God. Here comes that collaboration piece again.

    When it comes to co-creating, you bounce ideas off God. You’re like, “Hey man, I think I really need a new car. What do you think?” You ask God what he thinks. And God says, “Nah, you don’t need a car. Not Yet. There are other more important things you should be focusing on.” So you say, “Okay, God. I get you. I don’t need a new car. But what should I be focusing on? What’s the next step?”

    If you sit with yourself in silent meditation, journal, or spend time in quiet contemplation, God will open your heart to your true desires. You’ll receive intuitions in your quiet time. Someone you know will mention something to you. Or you’ll get an idea from the TV or radio. If you’re still unsure about the specific details, simply focus on defining the feeling. Think of the situation you want to attract into your life. Ask yourself these questions: what is it about that that I want or like? What feeling do I think I’ll get from that? How do I want to feel when I receive that situation or experience?

    It’s more important that you know what feeling you’re going after than what it all looks like. Often what we think we want is different than what would actually feel best and be best for us. So when you go with feelings first you’re going to attract the perfect situation rather than attracting a situation that meets a mental picture but doesn’t necessarily feel right. Once you know what you truly desire. You use that powerful tool (your defined feelings) to assist God in manifesting what you desire.

    It’s a process. Overtime your desire may change or alter based on new information. The information may shift your idea or vision of what you desire. But your feelings should always be the same. These core feelings inform a vision that will build in your mind’s eye. The vision may or may not be clear. What’s most important is the feeling behind the vision.

    In time, as you focus on your core desired feeling, enhance the vision that develops, and stay open to new ideas or opportunities, you’ll begin to see signs that what your desire is coming into form. As doors open, walk through them. Say yes. Take the help when someone offers. Go out and see that car you drove by on your way home from work. Take steps forward all while remaining focused on your core desired feeling. You’ll know your desire has manifested when your core desired feeling is matched by your experience – you get a new car and it feels amazing because you paid in full. Or a new friend reaches out to you to hang out. You meet someone while out on a hike. A family friend emails you about a new job opportunity.

    In time, as you stay committed and focused on your core feeling and intention, your desire will be made manifest. And you will successfully co-create your life with God. But you have to be patient. All good things come in time. This is where you can misstep again. The final step in the process: patience. It could take weeks, months, or even years for the perfect opportunity to manifest in your reality. But simply because it doesn’t arrive on your timeline, doesn’t mean it’s not on its way. And here’s where step two comes in handy again. You have to have faith. You have to continually surrender. You have to remain open. And you have to trust in the process.

    I heard once that manifestation is like being out on a boat that’s coming into shore on a foggy, gray morning. You can’t see the shore. In fact, it feels like you’re still light years away. But you see driftwood. Then you begin to see driftwood with birds perched on top. Soon you see other boats. And eventually, you see the shore. As your desire manifests, you’ll receive small signs or clues that you’re going in the right direction – don’t give up. Stick to your desired feeling. Your feelings are your guides. Every day remind yourself of the feelings. It should feel good, so it shouldn’t be any problem to slip into that good feeling place and coat yourself in the good stuff. Your continued faith is a key ingredient in this process. And without it, you won’t get very far.

    You may even forget about your desire for a while. Because life happens and other things come up. Your focus draws to other things. But you already put your order in for the Universe. So the Universe silently works on bringing your desire to you. Next thing you know, you look up and there’s your desire, in full form, right in front of you.

    What’s most important here is that you know what your true desire is and that you have clearly and specifically defined your desire, right down to the core feeling. And then you follow that with faith, surrender, trust, and openness as you patiently wait for your desire to come about. In the meantime, you live life, you say yes, and you take action.

    So if I had to break it down into a few simple and easy to remember steps, then this is what those steps would be:

    1. Know that you can create the life you desire
    2. You must recruit the help of the Universe
    3. Identify your true desire and core feeling
    4. Embody these qualities: faith, surrender, openness, and trust
    5. Say yes and take action
    6. Be patient